Wednesday, August 24, 2016
Tuesday, August 23, 2016
When your new hat is too big for your selfie #shortgirlproblems #shortarmsproblems -is it hat enough for your nuptials @londonisforliving @amsegall ? :o)
Regram @catherine.p.j.harris who always takes the best photos - 2nd time winning the #duckrace with Ferrari Duck, and in the 10th anniversary race too :o)
Friday, August 19, 2016
Monday, July 25, 2016
Really helpful advice on how not to put your foot in it if someone in your life is going through a difficult time. Some people do this instinctively, others need a helping hand
"Draw a circle. This is the center ring. In it, put the name of the person at the center of the current trauma. For Katie's aneurysm, that's Katie. Now draw a larger circle around the first one. In that ring put the name of the person next closest to the trauma. In the case of Katie's aneurysm, that was Katie's husband, Pat. Repeat the process as many times as you need to. In each larger ring put the next closest people. Parents and children before more distant relatives. Intimate friends in smaller rings, less intimate friends in larger ones. When you are done you have a Kvetching Order. One of Susan's patients found it useful to tape it to her refrigerator.
Here are the rules. The person in the center ring can say anything she wants to anyone, anywhere. She can kvetch and complain and whine and moan and curse the heavens and say, "Life is unfair" and "Why me?" That's the one payoff for being in the center ring.
Everyone else can say those things too, but only to people in larger rings.
When you are talking to a person in a ring smaller than yours, someone closer to the center of the crisis, the goal is to help. Listening is often more helpful than talking. But if you're going to open your mouth, ask yourself if what you are about to say is likely to provide comfort and support. If it isn't, don't say it. Don't, for example, give advice. People who are suffering from trauma don't need advice. They need comfort and support. So say, "I'm sorry" or "This must really be hard for you" or "Can I bring you a pot roast?" Don't say, "You should hear what happened to me" or "Here's what I would do if I were you." And don't say, "This is really bringing me down."
If you want to scream or cry or complain, if you want to tell someone how shocked you are or how icky you feel, or whine about how it reminds you of all the terrible things that have happened to you lately, that's fine. It's a perfectly normal response. Just do it to someone in a bigger ring.
Comfort IN, dump OUT."
Sunday, July 10, 2016
Sunday, July 03, 2016
Michael Rosen (via femmesorcery) http://ift.tt/299LcaH
Saturday, July 02, 2016
Sunday, June 26, 2016
"So well done, first of all. You listened to the arguments, the same ones I listened to. You heard all the same information I did, you listened to the same debates that I did, but you voted to leave. And you won. I take that – it was a democratic process and sometimes in the democratic process you lose, as I have done.
The referendum has activated the political energies of people who haven’t been interested in politics for some time, so we are told, and many of them are like you, who voted to leave. So here’s the plea of the losing side to you now.
Firstly, don’t stop – don’t stop with your political passion and activism, because we need you now. We need you to be active, we need you to keep talking to the people who you trusted with this vote, and we need you to hold their feet to the fire. There will be a General election in 2020, if not before, and by then, you will know whether their promises are good or not. So make it clear to them that you are watching to see if they were telling the truth or not.
If you voted leave because of all the money which will now go to the NHS, make sure it does. If it doesn’t vote them out, because they lied to you.
If you voted leave because of all the immigration, and it turns out that the deals that they do mean immigration will not go down, then vote them out, because they lied to you.
If you voted leave because of all the Brussels bureaucracy, and it turns out companies still have to conform with all Brussels bureaucracy in order to be part of a trade agreement, then vote them out, because they lied to you.
If you voted leave because you were reassured that the economy would be as good as or better than it is now, and it turns out that the pound has fallen, and businesses have left, and people have lost their jobs, then vote them out, because they lied to you.
If you find your rights – maternity and paternity leave, breaks at work, sick pay, health and social benefits – are taken away, when we were told they would not, then vote them out, because they lied to you.
My feeling is that the issues will remain. Immigration will not go down, mainly because we don’t train people in this country, we import them, which creates an underclass of white working class and second and third generation immigrants who aren’t trained or educated for work. With fewer workers rights, that’s only going to increase, rather than diminish.
So please, if you find that they lied to you, vote them out. And vote for the people who will tell you uncomfortable, complicated truths, rather than easy, simple lies."
by Fr Philip Blackledge - https://frpip.wordpress.com/2016/06/24/dear-brexiteer-what-we-need-you-to-do-now/via IFTTT
Friday, June 17, 2016
Feeling sad about Sandy moving to America. I'm excited for him, but sad for us too. He's a very dear friend, full of adventure, vim and party spirit. I appreciate his conversational art, and his thoughtfulness.
Feeling anxious about what needs doing at work.
Wondering what to get Ben for his birthday.
Ticking off the list of house admin. Carpets, curtains, fireplaces, architects.
Wondering if I have time to go to a craft shop tomorrow to buy something to jujzz up my Ascot hat.
Worrying about going to the doctor about my stupid lady parts.
Worrying about the EU referendum.
Feeling sad for the family of Jo Cox.
All sloshing around my head. All tick, tick, ticking away.
Sunday, May 22, 2016
Had an ace time in Santorini. Just like the pictures #santorini #holiday #Greece #oia #finikia #santowines
Saturday, May 21, 2016
Tuesday, May 17, 2016
Monday, May 09, 2016
Dancing dancing dancing woo dancing. Though I'm not as sharp as I used to be. Especially after a 12 hour day at work. I blame Martin.
Sunday, May 01, 2016
Sunday, April 17, 2016
Wednesday, April 06, 2016
Monday, April 04, 2016
Saturday, April 02, 2016
Friday, March 25, 2016
Incredibly moving Maundy Thursday Tenebrae service this evening.
Felt physically bereft at the lack of blessing in the dismissal and when the Christ candle was carried out of the worship space .
Jesus is gone.
Now in my sleeplessness pondering the feast of the annuciation and Good Friday sharing the same day. God given human form, and God taken away. Delivered to Mary as hope in a womb, and a broken body in arms.
Sunday, March 06, 2016
Saturday, February 13, 2016
Friday, January 29, 2016
I've been given a colouring prayer journal by a friend and I can't bear to use it because it uses Impact font for the titles. How designerist of me.
Where shall I take Tom for his birthday...
Thursday, January 28, 2016
Friday, January 22, 2016
Sometimes my job is awesome. Thanks for a fun week and the goodies @haffers ! Was nice meeting Bula.
Wednesday, January 20, 2016
This evenings v+t and bitters is pretty. Thanks for the recommendation @drjackmonroe blood orange balsamic n all!
Tuesday, January 12, 2016
Sunday, January 10, 2016
Friday, January 01, 2016
I love my friends.
In 2015 they have helped me move house, painted rooms, built things, cleaned things and more. I couldn't have done it with out them.
Today has been quiet, nursing my hangover back to life, and playing with babies.
Christmas was lovely. We had 17 for lunch including the two of us. I even had Christmas loo paper.