I learnt that people don't like it if you're different. That charm oils the wheels of the world and gets you far. No one likes a smart alec.
But I also learnt that kindness and love are the most important things. That it often costs nothing to be kind. To give people the benefit of the doubt.
I remember my mum making an amazingly fun game of running round the garden to pick flowers to fill a pretty tea cup to give my teacher at the end of term.
I remember the waking up early on Mother's Day and all of us mucking in making posies of flowers to give out at church.
Making cakes for people's birthdays. Helping people make fancy dress costumes.
And the joy it brought. The help, the thank yous, the fun.
That's probably the one lesson that's sunk in the deepest. If you can help someone, help them. It will bring joy.
I hope I manage it.